This post is a case of my son calling me mum and then stopped. My son is very calm, we used to have a good relationship until I suddenly realized he’s stopped calling me mum. How does he relate to you then I asked? He walks up to me to say whatever he wants to say or tap me. How long have you noticed this I asked? Is over three months. I think you’re gradually losing your son I said and she was like what do you mean? I said something is obviously wrong with your relationship with your son and if nothing is done about it, a time will come when he’ll completely cut you off from his life.
I had a separate session with both of them and also had another with both of them together to be able to identify the root cause. This we were able to achieve and afterwards, just like doctors diagnose you in other to tell why you’re unwell before carrying out treatment, same was applicable here and within a short period of time, their relationship was built back to normal and even stronger, the same boy that wasn’t calling her mum now calls her mum with so much excitement.
I don’t know what it is, that’s making you go mad or giving you sleepless nights over your child or parenting but see, I bring you good news and the good news is early intervention. It is you being able to identify and provide helpful support for your child. It’s the key to having effective treatment. Remember that the more you delay in fixing whatever challenge it is that you’re facing at the moment, the more difficult it will become of you to fix it.
The good news is, that there’s professional help irrespective of what you’re going through with your parenting, so seek one now. No one is saying there won’t be challenges in your parenting journey. In fact, that’s part of the reason I always say parenting is first about you the parent and it’s hard work. Your ability to know what to do at every point in time so as to support your child at every time of need is what makes you an intentional parent. I leave you with this question; why are you a parent or why did you choose to become parent? Being able to answer this question will give you a better perspective of your role in your child’s life.
